FORGIVENESS

FORGIVENESS

Tom says, "I can't forgive Jerry for lying to me."

Tom believes that if he can't forgive Jerry, it is Jerry's problem.

THIS IS NOT JERRY'S PROBLEM. THIS IS TOM'S PROBLEM.

When we don't forgive, we suffer. The person we consider 'guilty' is not bothered and we unncessarily put ourselves through so much mental anguish.

Some people never forgive their parents and ruin their lives just to prove to their parents what bad parents they are. Their message is, "It is your fault that I am unsuccessful and lonely and now you can watch me suffer".

They believe that by ruining their lives they are actually punishing their parents. Our parents brought us up the best way they knew. To blame them for a bad job of parenting is fruitless and destructive.

What is done is done. Get over it and move on.

The same goes for blaming other people. Do not hold grudges and harbour resentment.

FORGIVE AND FORGET.

Don't be a garbage collector. Throw out the thrash!

When someone harms you unintentionally then forgive and forget but if someone cheats you then forgive but don't forget their name.

You cheat me once, shame on you.

You cheat me twice, shame on me.

From the book "Be a Winner"